“Well, I don't care what other people think of me!” Ever heard someone say this? Was it true? Can they really take all positive and negative feedback without it causing an emotional response which they act upon?
How about if someone says to you “your work is rubbish and your personality sucks” or “I love what you do and can see you only want what is best for the people and world around you”. You would prefer the second quote, right?
Of course you would! It's completely ‘normal' to feel angry and hurt about the first quote and say something in your head or out loud to checkmate that negative comment. It's completely ‘normal' to get a buzz from the second quote and to give yourself an honorary pat on the back, isn't it?
So, that person who doesn't care what other people think, they would just rise above both comments as the self-belief they have is strong enough to go through life not reacting to other people's judgement. If this is true then great as it is this non-attachment to feeling accepted by others that allows us to flourish.
In a recent blog post by one of my favourite inspirational writers, Mastin Kipp, he says:
“Sure, people judge. But the point is, SO WHAT? We can't let the judgement of others stop us from shining our light.”
We can't allow our mood or life path to be affected by other people's judgements. Not only does this lead to an unfulfilled life and a block to following our dreams but it is also a ride on an emotional rollercoaster of stress, anxiety and fear that you may never get off.
Be proud to stand out! In fact, use the negativity of another to motivate you to try even harder to achieve your goals. Connect with yourself in times of self-doubt and look inward for the reassurance and guidance you need to move full steam ahead. Your inner guide tells you all you need to know and let's face it, it knows you a heck of a lot better than anyone else does.
As always, I love hearing your thoughts, tips and experiences so feel free to join in the conversation by leaving a comment below. It is great to build up a dialogue and support for readers.
Loving you for you,