Living from a place of integrity … 

Sorry I haven't blogged for a while! I've been going through one of those ‘everything happens at once' phases. So, although it has been a super busy time it has been a productive and inspiring time too, so now I'm back to share some thoughts with you.

Recently I attended a local Brighton business event at the beautiful and iconic Grand Hotel. Amongst the usual networking, zebra dancing (?!?), food and wine were three rather impressive speakers to inspire the socks off everyone. These fine individuals were Linzi Boyd founder of Brand Famous, Kevin Byrne founder of Checkatrade and the really wonderful Lord Karan Bilimoria founder of Cobra Beer. These three were speaking to us about business, brands and a new way of serving our customers which left a fresh buzz in the minds of all who listened. BUT, that isn't what I am hear to talk to you about today. Today, I am here to talk to you about the meaning of integrity.

During all the exalting talks I listened to that day, it was as though each speaker had been asked to use the word integrity as many times as possible. This of course, was an absurd notion, so was it me? Was I just hearing this word more than any other because I had something to learn from it? Well, with the unquestionable belief  that I have in things showing up exactly when we need them to, I got to googling (in the break of course 🤓). I wanted to know the true definition of the word ‘Integrity'. And here it was …

I got it! I realised why this word had been screaming out to me all day and why I needed to take notice.

To give you a little bit of personal background on me, I find it very difficult to understand when people aren't coming from a place of truth / honesty / authenticity. I often feel my head physically aches when the feeling and energy I am picking up on doesn't match the words that are coming out. I feel I am receiving a total mash up of information, none of which is cohesive or simple. At this point I usually make a swift exit and find myself doubting myself. Am I wrong? Is this person messing with my head? Did I place too high an expectation on this situation? Ultimately I am left questioning what is real, what is authentic and who is being honest.

I've often wondered, why does this matter so much to me? Others seem to be able to float around in this chaos of seemingly colliding words, thoughts and feelings, so why can't I just jump in?

Image from bathing
Image from bathing

Now I knew why. It was because of my integrity. My commitment to being who I was through and through and feeling rather fraudulent if I tried any other disguise. You see, it wasn't honesty, authenticity or truth that I was looking for. It was more simple than that, it was integrity.

I have come to realise that I honour that in myself and others extremely highly. I am lucky enough to have built a business and life on this foundation and what I once saw as hindrance to ‘fitting in', I now see as a life lesson and spiritual lesson for me at this time.

It's ok not to accept things simply as they are presented. It's ok to trust the feeling rather than the performance and it's ok to be you.

With love and integrity,

Kirsty x

2 thoughts on “Living from a place of integrity … 

  1. Hi Deborah,

    I only just saw this so sorry for late reply. I am glad this post resonated with you.

    Totally with you on integrity, it is so fundamental to an equal balance of giving and receiving

    I hope you are well xx

  2. I love your post Kirsty, thank you. This is so spot on and timely for me too – I struggle in exactly the same way with those lacking in authenticity, honesty and unhealthily selfish motives. I guess some people never find their true selves or even want to take responsibility to, which is very sad, but I’ve realised late in life that some people are energy vampires and narcissists so best to disengage where in the past I may have given far too much. Here’s to integrity! : )

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